Many may pass somebody less fortunate and pass judgement on them; forgetting that, getting stuck in any kind of situation can happen to anybody at anytime.
Think of your circle of friends. I'm certain that you can see who is simply 'stuck'. Whether they are 'stuck' in a cycle of non beneficial, loveless relationships or stuck on their BlackBerry and now live in the virtual world. Maybe they are stuck on lying and can never seem to simply tell the truth, or stuck in their arrogance, forgetting that no body is better than the next. What about their finances? Maybe their are stuck here, and cannot stop over spending. Or maybe just maybe, they are stuck in discouragement, poor confidence or lack of motivation. It's amazing how often our dearest friends can not see the potential we see in them.
If you have read our aims and objectives you probably know where I'm going with this. But I shall continue nonetheless.
Jamaican youth; Global trend setters, international motivators, cultural trend setters and linguistic innovators....are some of the most discouraged people I have ever meet.
They really do not understand or appreciate how Jamaican youth culture constantly influences international trends.
Instead of waving a flag with 'I'm so special' written on it (taken from Movado), there is a plague of discouragement that has infiltrated too many minds. Where has persistence, perseverance and patience gone from childhood training? What are our youth listening too and even worse what myths and illusions (whether about themselves or life in general) are they buying into?
Life is like a cycle and as our parents do; we mirror. Thus as their parents did; they mirrored.
Yes my argument is that some of our parenting skills require a shift.... a change. Some of our parenting skills are clearly non beneficial to our youth and community. I wonder how many of us can see the parenting ways and behaviours that continue from our days of enslavement. It's these ways that continue to stifle us, keep us stuck and easily discouraged.
Yes discouragement, is in every nation. But how can we break the cycle here in Jamaica? They say you can't teach and old dog new tricks. But you can mold the young into anything you so choose.
As Jamaica focuses on speaking out against child abuse, I hope that we all think before we speak when dealing with our youth; because our words are just as powerful as our actions.
Our youth are easily discouraged and the seed of discouragement, poor motivation and low self esteem is first sown in the home, by parents, family, friends and members of the community. Our words can kill a youths dream or give birth to one; in a split second.
My pastor once said. When you are telling off your child, instead of putting them down and telling them how silly, naughty or immature they are (the words could get worse, but please use your imagination as I am not going to write them). Tell them off with positivity. For example shout 'you intelligent boy, why did you do that?' or cuss 'do you know I expect you to be the greatest girl in the world, why did you do that?', or when you really want to smack them, give them the tightest hug and don't let go. Just whisper to them 'I really would like you to listen (or do) when I say A, B or C' and keep reminding them how they're your favourite second child.
I will say again, our youth are easily discouraged and the seed of discouragement, poor motivation and low self esteem IS FIRST SOWN in the home, by parents, family, friends and members of the community.
So please be careful of the words that leave your mouth.
Need I say more....